Introduction

So in the last few years of my life I’ve noticed I keep coming across pieces of media that have helped me think about my relationship to my gender. I’ve also come across media that has helped me communicate aspects of myself and make me feel understood. Additionally, recently I’ve noticed among my cisgendered friends a willingness to better understand trans experiences beyond a cursory level. To this end (and also because I want to practice my writing skills), I’ve decided to put together a little article listing some of these pieces of media that have had an effect on…


March the 31st is Transgender Day of Visibility, and it’s a particularly important day of the year for me. Three years ago, in 2018 it was when I came out to a broad range of people that I was trans. I’d started properly admitting it to myself in earnest a few months before then and had started telling people on a need to know basis. But on the 31st of March I made my trans-ness public. I changed my pronouns, I wanted people to know that I was a woman. I became visibly trans.

Visibility is a weird thing to…


The two main social media services I’ve been using are Twitter and Instagram. From my experiences I feel like I can divide the content I consume into five main categories:

  1. Services, accounts that fulfil an informational need of mine.
  2. People who I have interacted with and I feel confident that that they have a similar level of social familiarity with me as I them.
  3. People who I have a parasocial relationship towards
  4. Similar to 3, except I feel as though there is a plausible chance of the relationship becoming reciprocal.
  5. People whose content partly fulfils an informational need but because…

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